I had a family friend come over as a guest recently....he used to live in the United States, and then he moved to Turkey with his wife, but after the political turmoil in Turkey they came to the States as political refugees...
he advised me not to use this site as he says I will become radicalized or arrested.....he says he and his wife have grown concerned about me over my "extreme beliefs" and attribute it to using Islamic forums...he says many people on these sites are extreme, even violent, and can brainwash me, and that many even work for western intelligence to track 'terrorists' my father has said the same thing, saying he fears I will be radicalized.....I don't know what they mean by "radical beliefs" I have started believing, but I think they are referring to my belief that beard growing for men is fardh, that music is haram, that insurance is haram, that violence in self defense of tyrants is necessary through targeting of the country's military and police (I was saying gulenists should have fought for their rights in turkey).....that marrying a Christian or jewish woman in non muslim lands is makruh, and marrying a woman who was not muslim, Christian, OR jewish was haram, (he called this bs, for the lack of a better term...im paraphrasing).....
he claimed that my rhetoric has been changing over the past few months, and he grew concerned.....
my mother described the mosque I was going to for halaqas in the past as promoting "strange" beliefs, and of possibly being salafi, and the family friend advised me to avoid them, and said that even in regular mosques, the man sitting next to you could be a terrorist....he also said he has credibility because he did research on Islam for his master's and doctoral theses and dissertation, (he's an international relations professor, and he is also Muslim)....
my mother has forbid me from using this site, but I find I learn a lot about islam here, and that I also get much support....what should I do?